Friendly Advice

So we thought of some things when dating.

1) Affection towards the guy - I've been on a few dates where the girl doesn't show how she feels. In no way, shape or form does the girl ever get close. Sometimes it's cool for the girl to make the move, it shows she's really into the guy. It makes a guy feel good. If you're shy, work on being open with that guy.

2) Second Chances - You know this is a big one. HUGE... A lot of girls NEVER give second chances no matter how small the problem may be. You know if something is up telling him. TELL HIM. If it's small and he wants to keep you he will try to better himself, that's what makes dating work. I mean I'm not saying try to change him but allow him to better himself. Sometimes people make mistakes …get over it. Example - If he comes on too strong, it could be weird but tell him to lay off just a little bit. You know he obviously likes you just give him a chance to prove himself. But it is cool to draw the line after like after the third chance, we’re not saying to give him unlimited chances just allow him to prove himself a second time.

3) Treat Him - You want a guy to think you're really incredible treat him to something. Surprise him by like coming to his work and bringing him some food, a present, a card. Ask HIM out on a date. Get him something small that you know he likes. Switch the roles around for a day. You don't have to spend a lot of money by any means just do something that he'd normally do for you but for him. He'll be that more willing to do stuff for you if you sometimes treat him.

To tell the truth sometimes guys want to be treated special. Maybe it sounds weird but it shows you really care for him and he'll be that much more willing to do things for you. Second Chances, Gifts, and showing affection helps a lot and shows he means something to you. Be nice about sometimes taking the wheel. IT'S RELIEVING BEYOND BELIEF for some guys.

Hopefully this tiny insight will help a little.

Go to a playground that's not in use and play! Take along a picnic lunch, baseball, bat, Frisbee or outdoor toys (blowing bubbles is fun). Have a great lunch after playtime.

Don't surprise your date with a hatchet movie, meal, etc. on the first date. They may be allergic to horror films - and you don't want to 'surprise' a vegetarian with a dinner at "Harvey's House of Beef."

With a 'surprise' date you could end up with a teetotaller at a wine tasting, or a lactose-intolerant date at a cheese fest - you get the picture...

Be honest, don't play games. Avoid even stretching the truth; the first time you're caught it will destroy your credibility.

Be on time . Lateness is inconsiderate (not to mention it reveals all sorts of things about your personality such as your passive-aggressive tendencies). If your date is late, be pleasant, and listen to their reason - it might be legitimate.

Tell yourself you're not nervous, just excited.

If your date compliments you don't just brush it off or say something rude about yourself, say thank you and do NOT put yourself down.

If you're concerned about topics of conversation, be sure to read a newspaper or watch a news program that day so you're up on world events.

Find out if he has any good platonic female friends. It's a good sign if they can relate to women.

Keep checking the inside (give the exterior stuff a rest). If you stay focused on looks you may end up ignoring or dumping a perfectly fantastic person without ever really giving them a chance.

Be open -- to your date's ideas about what to do on the date and express yourself honestly (AND tactfully).

Don't manhandle your date and don't rush sex!

Keep the first date brief. Leave them wishing for more, not wondering how to escape.

Stay away from someone who only talks about money and 'things' or who boasts - usually signs of deep-seated insecurity.

Don't talk about marriage and kids and long-term plans for the two of you on your first dates.

Be clear about the date, time and place ...and be on time! Don't leave things hanging with "I'll call you later with the details."

Keep topics light and keep away from controversial issues on the first date. Also, refrain from using off-colour language or jokes, or making sexual references.

Try a sporting event neither one of you have ever seen live: a polo match, professional tennis tournament, golf tournament, dressage, volleyball, tractor-pull, sumo-wrestling - whatever you can agree on doing together that's different.

Collect cocktail napkins or other mementos from all the places you have been together.

Remember, games can be fun. Monopoly, computer games for two, card games, and end it all with a game of Twister, it's all clean fun and you can assess the situation before the naughty stuff begins?